How you communicate

What each area asks about

• Asking when things are unclearWhether you ask to make vague requests, plans and instructions clear
• Reading the contextWhether you read tone, relationship and what came before, not only the words
• Choosing words for the listenerWhether you adjust how and where you say things to the listener and the setting
• Saying where your limits areWhether you say up front what you can and cannot take on
• Raising difficult topicsWhether you bring up problems and disagreements yourself
• Checking everyone agreesWhether you check that everyone has actually agreed

What you actually did over the past three months

This survey does not ask what kind of person you are. It asks what you actually did over the past three months. You read statements such as checking when something is needed after someone hands you a request with no deadline, and pick the answer closest to how often you did it, from “almost never” to “almost always.”

The statements are written so that you answer from memory rather than from what you think you should do. If something never came up, or a statement does not make sense to you, you can mark the reason instead of choosing an answer.

Draft statements, not a validated test

Every statement is a first draft written for this site. None of them has been tried out with real participants or reviewed by an expert yet. That makes this a draft survey rather than a validated psychological test, and there is no reason to treat its result as a verdict about you.

Why you only see averages

For each area, the result gives the average of your own answers, the answer that average sits closest to, and how many times you picked each answer. There is no ranking against other people, no percentile, and no sorting into personality types.

The areas ask about different things in different words, so a higher average in one area does not mean that side of you is stronger than another. Read each area on its own rather than comparing them.

Statements you mark as hard to answer, such as “Hasn’t happened,” are left out of the averages. An area with too few usable answers gets no average at all; the result tells you so instead.

Statements asked the other way around

If you choose to answer every statement, each area also includes statements asked in the opposite direction, for example whether you take silence after your own suggestion as agreement. Those statements are still under review. You can answer them, but they are kept out of the averages and listed separately on the result screen.

Another option adds the group situations and the reading quiz after the survey. Even then, the averages come from the survey statements alone, and the situations and the quiz each get their own part of the result. How it works compares this survey with the other quizzes.